Dysfunctional behavior is the new norm

Sometimes I wonder, if I am on the same planet as other people. Why do we allow people to mistreat us as if it is okay? Why do so many people accept that type of behavior in their lives, anyway? Better yet, why do people pretend to be something they are NOT? When did we stop loving ourselves, and crave for others to love us. No one cannot love us, until we love ourselves. And it start with what we allow in our lives, if we allow people to lie, cheat and abuse us; then we do not love ourselves. It is complicated to understand people behavior but it is our responsibility to not allow foolishness in our lives. I know, some of us love to play the victim role. Look at what that person has done to me, but truthfully we did it to ourselves. Take a look at who is in our lives, if there is someone that don’t serve us any good, respect, purpose, or honesty. Then remove that person, and watch the Lord begin to bless us with greatness. Love, peace, joy and blessings! ❤




How to stay focus

I find it so hard to stay focus when I have so much going on in my life. The goal for 2014 is to concentrate on my dreams and goals, but I want to do so much that it is hard to focus on only one. So I did some research on how to focus, hope these tips will help you as well.

10 tips to stay focus:

1. Create a daily routine.

2. Create a vision board, so you can see your goals clearly.

3. Keep your Big goals to a minimum, so you don’t become overwhelmed.

4. Finish everything you started, so you don’t feel guilty not doing something.

5. Take some time for yourself to relax. We all need some “me time.”

6. Focus on one thing at a time.

7. Write a daily to-do list.

8. Find a supporter to help you stay focus on your goals. Find a mentor, coach or a true friend.

9. Avoid distractions. Turn off all electronics.

10. Stay focus long term. Try meditation, breathing and relaxation exercises.

I have done most of the tips on the list and it has helped me to concentration. Love, peace, joy and blessings! ❤focus




Sometimes I wonder what make some people stronger and some weaker, guess it has a lot to do with the pain people endure. As a woman, I have endured in lots of pain, but I didn’t allow it to define who I am as a person. The tragedies that I have encountered in the past has made me stronger. But you can eliminated lots of pain by creating healthy boundaries, then no one can hurt your feelings. Even if, someone does hurt your feelings, talk to them immediately. If it continues, then remove them from your life. Why hold on to someone that has no respect for you? Stop giving people your power, they don’t deserve it.

Here are ways to increase your strength:

  1. Don’t give your power away.
  2. Forget about the pity party.
  3. Embrace change.
  4. If you can’t control it, then let it go!
  5. Don’t kiss people behind to get ahead.
  6. Be a risk taker.
  7. Don’t hold on the past. No one likes a whiner or complainer.
  8. Mistakes are lessons, so don’t repeat.
  9. Don’t be a hater or jealous of other people success, it would make bitter.
  10. If you fall, then get back up. Never give up!
  11. It is normal to feel fear, so just do it.
  12. Get it out of your head, no one owes you a darn thing.
  13. Success is a slow process, so don’t expect rapid results.

Love, peace, joy and blessings! ❤


Extraordinary people


As a child I always thought I was weird because I didn’t think like other children. I tried so hard to fit in and be accepted. The more I tried, the more I lost so much of being my true self. I always had huge dreams and great ideas. Before there were dance videos, I was able to coordinate a dance routine with some neighborhood kids. We sold tickets to the adults in the community and used the money for our celebration party. Those were the good old days. To this day, my mother questioned how a group of kids pull it off without any adults. Never doubt your children’s talents and/or gifts, it does nothing to their self-esteem.

As a young adult I tried being normal again, I was engage to my son’s father and hope that we will get married. But that never happened, I couldn’t bring myself to marry him and was with him for 17 years. I hated the idea of being his wife for the rest of my life. I felt that my life had ended. But this is how women think, they should get married and have children. But I was miserable, I wanted out badly. I wanted to pursue my dreams. It got to a point that I resented him or any other men that crossed my path that tried to stifle my growth.

Now, I am doing exactly what I want to do and loving every moment. If you have big dreams, go for it and don’t allow anyone to stop you for pursuing your dreams.

Love, peace, joy and blessings! ❤

Recognize Opportunities

Happy 2014, hope everyone had a wonderful holiday and brought the New Year in safe. I felt the need to hear God’s wisdom. I was also blessed to attend the NYC Inauguration 2014 to see some political officials be sworn in the city. As I assessed the environment to see the attendees, I felt truly grateful to witness history unfold in front of my eyes. I wondered why I was worthy to attend such a great event. I tried to figure out the lesson in the experience or maybe it wasn’t a lesson. Maybe it was a way to show me appreciation in my community service and/or canvassed political campaigns. Whatever it may or may not be, I recognized it was an opportunity and I will be forever grateful. Thanks to everyone that came across my path rather it was short or long term. And may God continue to bless all of us for a better 2014.

Love, peace, joy and blessings! ❤